Do you have “Hepatitis/AIDS” – scary revelations from a hospital’s patient health survey


For better or worse, I’m blessed that I’m at a point in life where I can be fairly transparent about my story, about my history. This allows me to play a role of educator or connector, when moments present themselves.

Most recently, I’ve received a number of questions from friends wanting to better understand HIV/AIDS. I’ve been living with the HIV+ virus since early 2012, when I was diagnosed following an acute septic reaction to an antibiotic treatment I received at the time, which landed me in the hospital for 2 days. While I’m not a medical professional, I answer when I have the information, seek it from my advisors when I don’t, and do what I can to promote healthier sexual practices and awareness.  I’m far from perfect, but do the best I can each day…

One bit of wise counsel my nurse gave me from the outset is be careful about searching for credible information on the internet.  She gave me one site – thebody.com – which she trusted.  Otherwise, she told me to come to the infectious disease office or my care coordinator (The Damien Center, in my case) with questions.  I’m grateful for her support and wisdom.

In the spirit of education and awareness, I thought I would share this somewhat scary personal experience, in hopes that others may learn from it.

I was going to a new medical office for physical therapy, for a fractured rotator cuff.  This office is part of a local, major hospital network (actually, the same network that owns the infectious disease office where I receive my treatment and support for HIV+).  As with most such offices, they have a “new patient” survey, to gather as much relevant medical history as possible.  I’ve had similar surveys when I sought acupuncture, yoga/massage, and of course, a new GP (general practitioner).

As I completed the form, I came to a question regarding my medical history, asking if I had any history of (and I quote), “Hepatitis/AIDS.”  I looked through the rest of the questions in disbelief – and found no other references to HIV+, and couldn’t understand why they would list Hepatitis on the same line (with a slash!) as AIDS.  Really?

I asked the office receptionist to speak to someone about the survey, as I found the questions to be inaccurate and troublesome.

My PT came out to talk with me.  I explained to him my concern with the question, and that I was HIV+, on medication, and have a viral load that is undetectable.  However, I have had neither Hepatitis nor been diagnosed with full blown AIDS… As such, I found the questions to be alarmingly wrong.  Fortunately, he agreed with me and handled the situation tactfully.

First, as I started to bring up my concerns, he stopped me to ask if I preferred to discuss the survey back in an office (we were still in the waiting room) for more privacy.  Yay for him!  I was ok, since it was a chance for anyone listening to “become educated.”  But, I’m glad he knew enough to ask…  (There are Federal laws which protect what and how questions can be asked regarding one’s HIV/AIDS status.  For more information, refer to this article.)

Second, when I suggested they change their survey as it was clearly wrong, he explained the source of the survey – which probably worried me even more.  For medicare/medicaid reimbursement, they “buy” the online survey to measure outcomes, and to understand any potentially related illnesses / history.  So, a “government agency” or “government backed” company provided the online survey questions – OMG.  (Unfortunately, this meant it wasn’t as easy for them to update…)  All very scary…

Third, he showed his own personal level of knowledge by asking me if I was immunodeficient, further explaining that he was just returning to work from being off with a cold/fever.  Normally, it would be inappropriate for anyone to ask such a question, but he was totally appropriate – showing concern for my overall health.  Basically, it was a tactful way of asking if my CD4 count was “healthy” – or was I at a higher risk of catching other illnesses, like the cold or flu.  (Based on my viral load and CD4 count, I’ll normally say “I have the HIV+ virus, but am on medication, healthy, with an undetectable viral load).

So, shamefully, Hepatitis and AIDS were listed on the same line, as if they were related…and HIV+ (which is different than having AIDS) was not even mentioned.  And this as a hospital/government endorsed patient survey!

At least I did my part and spoke up…brought it to their attention…  That’s all I have control over.  (Serenity prayer in action!)  I hope his management makes changes…

In the spirit of education, I share the following key articles that answer many of the basic questions I get…all from the TheBody.Com, or vetted from other sources and included therein.

  • What is HIV?
  • The stages of the HIV disease (including AIDS)
  • HIV Transmission FAQ
  • Safer Sex Guidelines (note I said safer…not safe.  Read on…)
  • Two key “numbers” we track (as those living with HIV+/AIDS)
    • CD4 Count –  important part of the immune system. CD4 cells are sometimes called T-cells. Everyone has them – it’s a general measure of the state/health of your immune system.  Higher numbers are better.
    • Viral Load – the amount of HIV virus in your blood.  Viral loads are usually reported as copies of HIV in one milliliter of blood.  There are no “magic” numbers for viral loads.  All we know so far is that lower is better and seems to mean a longer, healthier life.  U.S. treatment guidelines (see Fact Sheet 404) suggest that all HIV-positive people be offered treatment. For patients with viral load over 100,000, there is urgency for treatment.  The best viral load test result is “undetectable.” This does not mean that there is no virus in your blood; it just means that there is not enough for the test to find and count. There is no “safe” level of viral load. Although the risk is less, you can pass HIV to another person even if your viral load is undetectable (which is why we use the term “safer sex” as opposed to “safe sex.”  With any STD, it’s all about relative risk! 🙂

Celebrating second chances…this teared me up with joy!


I was recently attending a workshop for asset-based community development (ABCD). I witnessed ABCD in a very personal and powerful way that literally brought tears of joy to my eyes as things unfolded…this stuff really works!  Really!  Read on…

Some context

Back in the Fall of 2010, I attended a workshop sponsored by the Mayor’s Office of Re-Entry, which was under the direction of Maxine Bryant at the time (whom I love and admire for her creative investment in homecomers – my term for ex-offenders).  The Conference provided an opportunity for people with felonies to network and gain knowledge of resources available to us.  Specifically, if our history was creating barriers to employment, the challenge was put to us to consider starting our own business.  And, the Mayor’s Office put their money where their mouth was in very practical ways. (Read more here, starting on page 2 of this newsletter…)

I was fortunate and blessed to make it to the final stage of the challenge, with my proposal and business plan submission.  It has taken shape with time along my recovery journey: I now provide website, videography and social media support for several small businesses/non-profits. I was proud to stand with the five finalists, all of whom had fantastic business ideas…and blessed to be among the three finalists. (That’s me in the blue shirt/orange tie!)

Second Chance Challenge
Second Chance Challenge Finalists (Feb 2011)

Fast forward to the ABCD workshop in November 2014:

The sponsors (The Learning Tree LLC) put out a bid for cooks, which included them “telling their story.” They selected a BBQ & Catering business because of the owner’s personal journey, turning his full-time health disability due to MS (multiple schelorsis) into an opportunity to follow his passion/dream to own his own BBQ business.  As they invited him up to share his story with the 100+ folks attending the workshop, my jaw dropped…and I started to cry proud tears of joy (as I am even now, writing this blog.)  For in front of me was my fellow “Second Chance Challenge” friend, Antron Alexander…proud owner of “Ant’s Grill and Catering.”  (Above, he is standing to my left, in the light grey-blue shirt).

As he finished telling his story (unaware that I was in the audience), I stood up and approached him.  He recognized me, and we gave each other a heartfelt hug – to the bewilderment of those around us.  I then proceeded to tell the “story behind the story” – how Antron also overcame a felony on his record – another barrier to employment and societal acceptance – in starting this venture.  It was overwhelming to see him standing there, in front of everyone, proudly sharing his home cooking with us…what a difference a couple of years makes!

I was humbled and proud of Antron’s accomplishment and progress – not only working with his medical condition, but also creating success from the employment barriers by starting his own business. How many people do I know who are on permanent disability and do little to nothing – existing, or just “getting by?”  At times, I believe that’s the expectation society can create for those on “permanent disability”…that they have nothing left to offer.  Here was a man who went well beyond what society was expecting of him, becoming a contributing member of society.

And, by the way – the BBQ and vegetarian lasagne was AMAZING!

So, if you want a reason to believe in personal victory, in the power of community, in the tangible outcomes of our city and mayor’s office, and the benefit of seeing “assets” over “needs”…remember my friend Antron at Antron’s Grill.

And, if you need a caterer for your next event, please consider sending him a bid.  You can reach him at antsgrill@gmail.com – “as grill as it gets!”

Antron, being introduced by the workshop organizer...
Antron, being introduced by the workshop organizer…
Antron, telling his story...
Antron, telling his story…
Antron, working in the kitchen...
Antron, working in the kitchen…
My personal reunion with Antron
My personal reunion with Antron

Maxine Bryant, at Indy’s Recovery Rally 2010 – Indianapolis, Indiana from CToddCreations

The Power Of A Question: Who Are The Healers In Your Community?


Some of my other entries have touched on the “Power of a Question.”  It can often completely change our thinking or the outcome of a situation because it invites new perspectives.

I have a friend who does this well.  Even when I imagine he has advice to offer, or experience to share – he will hold back, “play dumb” and probe with a series of questions. The beauty in this is it invites dialogue.

Another friend used to say, “I can choose to be right, or I can choose to be happy.  I choose to be happy.”  I’ve taken that a bit further with “I can choose to be right, or I can choose to connect.  I choose to connect.”  Again, by asking a question instead of giving advice, we’re more likely to build rapport and create dialogue, which is far more important to me now than being right.

One of the other places I’ve come across the Power of a Question is from my daily devotional, by Mark Nepo.  The readings introduced me to a series of questions Native America medicine men ask of the sick: When was the last time you sang? When was the last time you danced? When was the last time you told your story? These questions would be put to the sick and dying by the tribe’s medicine man. In my recovery journey, I’m learning it’s just as important to ask these questions of the living. I also used these three questions to celebrate my mom’s life journey last year, reflecting on her song, her dance, her story…


“The right question at the right time changes the way we look at things around us.”

This past Sunday, I heard a sermon by my pastor and friend Mike Mather that embodied this “Power of a question.”  It was truly inspired and moved me. Mike talked about a visit some folks took to meet with Dr. John Rich, recipient of a MacArthur Foundation Fellowship. As a primary care doctor at Boston Medical Center, Rich created the Young Men’s Health Clinic and initiated the Boston HealthCREW, a program to train inner city young men to become peer health educators who focus on the health of men and boys in their communities.  His recently published book about urban violence Wrong Place, Wrong Time: Trauma and Violence in the Lives of Young Black Men has drawn critical acclaim.

Mike shared in the sermon how two simple questions from Dr. John Rich profoundly affected the group, and fundamentally changed how Mike now sees the world. It’s also permeates the structure, mindset and “ministry” of our church. Dr. Rich asked the group:

“Who are the healers in your community?

He then asked them,

“How are you supporting those healers?”

At Broadway, we ask not about what someone’s needs are, but about someone’s gifts. Asking people what they are gifted at rather than what they lack changes the way we see the world. And while we are far from perfect at it, it really is a mindset that transcends a single “leader” and has become a way of life for many or most of us.

Others from outside of Broadway have confirmed this, which helps remind me why we do things the way we do.  It really does make a difference in the long run.  It can be a little messier, or shall I say less tidy and well defined.  It’s harder perhaps to measure or articulate through “program objectives” because the work or ministry doesn’t take place from the center, but is instead supported from the center.  The church’s role becomes one of making visible that which is already taking place – through the gifts, passions and efforts of our members, out in their neighborhoods, workplaces and communities.

The following clips capture some of what I’m talking about, so I will close with them.  You can also find the rest of Mike’s sermon podcast here: http://www.broadwayumc.info/audio/10-19-14_Sermon.mp3