Toxic




Jim McKeeth • CC BY-SA 4.0

Content note: This piece references sexual role-play, kink dynamics, humiliation language, and HIV-related stigma. It may be activating for readers with trauma histories around sex, power, or medical stigma. Please take care while reading.

I had a hookup recently that was mostly good, a little scary, and unexpectedly clarifying. He is 55 so from the same generation as me. That matters for what came next.

There was kink. Some bondage. Some power play. Some things that pushed my edges in ways that felt exciting. And then there was a moment that landed wrong in my body in a way I couldn’t ignore.

At some point, he noticed the U=U sticker on the back of my phone. In the middle of the scene, he asked if I was HIV negative or undetectable. I answered honestly. Undetectable.

He shared that he was HIV negative. And then, woven into the role-play, he started using language about me being “toxic.” He asked who made me that way. He asked if I had ever “converted” anyone.

I want to be clear. I’m not opposed to fantasy. I’m not fragile about sex talk. I can hold a lot of words in a consensual space. But something about that language stopped me cold.

“Toxic” wasn’t hot. It wasn’t edgy. It felt old. It felt like fear dressed up as kink.

I found myself wondering why the details mattered. Who passed it on to me. The idea of “conversion.” The implication that my body was dangerous. Even in a fantasy, those words don’t live in a vacuum.

I said no. Gently. We moved on. The role play continued. And on paper, nothing bad happened.

And yet, something shifted for me.

I realized I had just discovered a new hard limit, one I didn’t know I needed until it was crossed. I’m still sitting with why that is. Part of me feels surprised by my own reaction. Part of me feels steadied by it.

As someone who does HIV advocacy work, I spend a lot of time talking about science, stigma, and criminalization in public spaces. I’m used to explaining. I’m used to educating. I wasn’t prepared for how jarring it would feel to have those same stories show up in a private, sexual space without warning.

This isn’t about blaming someone or calling them out. It’s about noticing the gap between what we think we understand about HIV and the stories that still surface underneath in intimate spaces. Even among people who believe they are informed. Even in spaces that see themselves as sex-positive.

I don’t have a neat takeaway yet. What I have is awareness. And a clearer sense of what I am not willing to eroticize, even in play.

For now, that feels like enough.

I also know this will find its way back into my art. That’s how I process. I feel my way through my body first, then let the images come later. There will likely be a new layered piece around sex, sexual harm, and the complicated space between pleasure and injury. Around recovery, healing, and growth that isn’t linear or clean.

This experience will be part of that. Not as a reenactment, but as an imprint. The lessons I’m taking with me. The sensations that stayed in my body after the night ended. The parts I’m still listening to.

That last part will be the hardest. And it’s the one I trust the most.

Keep telling the story.

Professor Peacock

Nothing Bad Happened


Content note: This piece includes discussion of sexual assault, sexual violence, consent, substance use, and BDSM imagery.

I titled this piece Nothing Bad Happened before I knew if I was ready to explain it.

Nothing Bad Happened (BW) – 2025

That’s often how my work functions. I process parts of my life through art before I fully understand what I’m touching. Sometimes intentionally. Sometimes not. This was an image I took down from the wall, looked at briefly, and put back. Not because it wasn’t good, but because I wasn’t ready to sit with it.

Then someone I care about asked me about the title. Someone I want to know better. I don’t let people get close easily, so the question caught me off guard. Instead of deflecting, I chose to answer.

This year, my themes have been connection, authenticity, community, and intentionality. Not the loud kind. Not the polished kind. The quiet kind that shows up sitting on a couch in a gallery, talking honestly about a piece of art.

So I told the truth.

Twelve years ago, I invited someone into my home under a sexual pretense. There were drugs. There was bondage. And there were substances involved that I did not consent to. I woke up hours later still tied up, alone, my home emptied. My credit cards, my car, my electronics gone. What happened changed the trajectory of my life.

I was sexually assaulted.

Our culture is obsessed with narrow definitions. I’m done shrinking my experience to fit them.

I did nothing wrong. What happened was not my fault. I did not get what I deserved.

I’ve done years of therapy since then. Different modalities. Different clinicians. Harm reduction because it works for me right now. Trauma doesn’t disappear just because time passes. It lives in the body. In desire. In fear. In the places you still avoid.

For me, that includes a complicated relationship with bondage. I’m drawn to it and wary of it at the same time. I want to experience it as something consensual, skillful, and safe. I can’t say I’ve fully reclaimed that yet.

This photograph was part of that work.

What you’re seeing is not my body. It’s someone else’s. What mattered to me was the care in the moment. The attention. The trust. The skill. I witnessed restraint practiced with intention and compassion, and I was able to capture it. I was present. I was grounded. Nothing bad happened.

When the idea for this exhibition came together, the title arrived instantly. Not as denial. As truth.

I lived through witnessing restraint. I lived through photographing it. And this time, there was no harm. That matters more than it might seem.

Maybe someday I’ll trust someone enough to go there myself. Maybe not. For now, I have my art. I have the stories behind it. And I have the act of creation, which has always been where I reclaim my power.

Art doesn’t erase trauma. But it interrupts it. It creates light where there used to be silence.

Nothing bad happened.

And that, for me, is a kind of healing.

Keep telling the story,

Sawubona,

Professor Peacock

U=U, Ten Years Later: What the Science Settled and the World Still Hasn’t


I learned about U=U in 2019.

Not in 2016 when the message officially launched. Not at the beginning. I learned about it three years later, when the science was already clear and the evidence overwhelming. And what struck me immediately wasn’t the data. It was the disconnect.

Doctors had the science.
The world hadn’t caught up.

People living with HIV are still being treated as dangerous. Still criminalized. Still framed as a problem to manage rather than people to respect. The science says something radical and simple. Undetectable equals untransmittable. Zero risk. Full stop. But culture, law, and everyday beliefs are still operating on fear.

That gap changed me.

Later that year, I launched #CelebrateUU, not as an education campaign, but as a visibility project. I didn’t want to explain U=U. I wanted people to see it. Real people. Real faces. Real intimacy. Because stigma doesn’t dissolve through statistics alone. It dissolves when humanity becomes undeniable.

Over the years, I’ve watched U=U do incredible things.

When people receive clear, confident U=U information, it changes how they see themselves. It restores sexual confidence. It reframes treatment from obligation to empowerment. It opens the door to honesty, joy, and possibility. In clinical settings where providers speak clearly and without hedging, trust grows. Fear recedes. People breathe again.

But ten years in, it’s also clear where U=U hasn’t gone far enough.

U=U didn’t fail. But its impact has been uneven because belief spread slower than evidence.

Too many providers still hedge.
Too many public messages flatten U=U into a slogan.
Too many rural and marginalized communities are left behind.
Too many laws still treat people with HIV as a risk, not as people living with a managed condition.

And in the middle of this, a real and complicated concern has emerged. The fear that U=U creates a viral divide.

That concern deserves honesty, not avoidance.

A person’s value is not determined by viral load. Full stop. When someone can’t reach viral suppression, that is very often a failure of systems, not individuals. Housing instability. Mental health. Poverty. Trauma. Access gaps. Stigma itself. These are not personal shortcomings. They are structural barriers.

And the vast majority of people who are not virally suppressed still care deeply about preventing transmission. They take precautions. They disclose. They navigate risk thoughtfully and responsibly, often with far less support than they deserve.

But here’s the hard truth we can’t avoid.

Fear of creating a viral divide cannot be used to weaken or hide settled science.

The answer to inequity is not diluting the truth. It’s fixing the systems that keep people from benefiting from it. When we hedge U=U out of discomfort, we don’t protect people. We reinforce stigma. Worse, we create space for bad policy.

This matters because stigma doesn’t just live in attitudes. It lives in law.

U=U exposes how outdated HIV criminalization laws are, but science alone doesn’t repeal bad laws. When institutions hedge on U=U, they reinforce the idea that people with HIV are inherently dangerous, and that shows up in courtrooms, sentencing, and statutes.

In recent years, my work has shifted toward implementation. Grounded in U=U University, which clearly defines the science, I’ve focused on the question that ten years of U=U now demands: What happens after awareness?

Knowing the science is not the same as practicing it. When providers hesitate, when systems stay silent, stigma survives. And patients pay the price.

If a provider can’t explain U=U clearly, confidently, and consistently, then the promise of U=U remains theoretical for the people who need it most.

Ten years later, U=U has proven what’s medically possible. The virus can be rendered untransmittable. Fear no longer belongs in the science.

The work now is alignment.

Aligning healthcare with evidence.
Aligning law with reality.
Aligning public messaging with dignity.

Until our systems behave as if they believe what the science already tells us, U=U remains true, but its promise isn’t fully realized.

And that’s where the next decade begins.